So I've built what I think is a really great website with lots of awesome information that I think visitors to my site will find useful. Trouble is I don't get many visitors and that is because I don't really understand the principle of building backlinks. I know that I must build backlinks to improve my position in the search engines results pages and I know that I should use a varied link profile but I can't quite understand how to put it all together in to a workable plan. I mean failing to plan is planning to fail right?

I often see sites with thousands of backlinks and it must be near on impossible to catch these sites because they would always add more and more so that no one could outrank them? I realise this post may sound negative but I'm not negative and I've been at Internet marketing for a few years now and I've never seemed to get the knack of backlinking and I really want to succeed. 

It seems that google is making it harder and harder for people like me who don't fully understand how to get ranked well and I feel so frustrated and lost. I'd love it if there were a tutorial on building backlinks which showed how it should be done right from day one up to getting it ranked at the top but I've yet to find this kind of tutorial. Does anyone know of a tutorial like this? If so please comment and let me know.